There are lots of ways to improve a marriage relationship, but bending your husbands mind is probably the quickest and most productive path to getting not only what you need out of a relationship, but getting what you want. A recent survey was done and they asked husbands which was the easiest to put up with, having a wife that left you feeling unloved or having a wife that left you feeling unappreciated. Listen to the mind blowing results. Seventy five percent of men said they would rather feel unloved, than unappreciated. That is a sad, staggering statistic. Especially when we live in the generation of “power women” with an independent - I really don’t need a man attitude. Yet this generation by exceedingly far has more divorces than the generation that good old home maker grandma had. Grandma knew how to get in her husbands head. Old granny knew how to keep a man satisfied for 50 years when grand darling can barely handle six months in a marriage relationship. Grandma knew that the husband might be the head of the family but she was the neck that turned the head whereas grand darling wants to be the head and the neck, and he can settle for being the feet as long as she makes more money. Our generation is messed up ladies. You want a long term marriage? Then you better learn some of grandma’s secrets. I’ve been married going on 21 glorious years and I can guarantee you that I listened not only to my grandmother’s wisdom and mother’s wisdom but to all of the wisdom presented to me by women who obeyed God’s word in which he commands older women to instruct younger women on how to establish a successful and happy home. Here are my top ten and I pray to God that you find something that you can use to improve your marriage.

1. Give him what he wants. In order to do that you have to ask him what he wants. Believe me when he got married he had expectations of what a wife should be. Finding that out can help your relationship tremendously and do all that you can within reason to meet those expectations. And the ones that you feel you can not, discuss it and come up with what will work.
2. Learn to use your words to build him up and not to break him down. Women do not realize how painful their mouths can be. We speak out of emotions and uncontrolled emotions cause pain. Men don’t like to share pain so they hold a lot in. When it is too much for them to hold in, then you get extreme arguments and domestic disputes. Get control of your tounge and bless him with your words. This will build the appreciation that he desperately needs but would never admit to.
3. Keep your friends, family and their opinions out of your marriage. He is your man and your responsibility. They don’t know anything.
4. Keep your husband satisfied sexually. Women have subdued kingdoms in the bedroom. Queen Cleopatra showed up nude in a rug at the feet of Ceasar and that was the beginning of the end of the powerful Roman empire. Queen Esther out performed an entire kingdom of women and her husband commented to her (after stopping a war to have dinner with her) ask whatever you want I will give it to you up to half of my kingdom. You better realize the power that God has given to you in the bedroom.
5. Do more for him than he expects.
6. Tell God you are thankful for the man he has given you and you will return him better off and more fulfilled than the day you married him.
7. Get involved in his world. Play the way that he plays. My husband likes to jog. I hate to jog. But when he decides to go jogging, I trail him on my bike and I love bike riding. He likes to do yard work, I hate yard work, but when he is out in the yard I will sit on the ground and talk to him while he is working and I love to talk. My husband loves football, I am learning to like football but when the game is on I will sit right there with him or fix him whatever he wants to eat while watching the game. I am not excited about the game, but I am excited because the game makes him happy and I can feel that excitement just by sitting next to him.
8.Tell him you love him and kiss him often.
9.Get rid of I in marriage. The day you said I do - I died. For the rest of your days it is we, us and ours.
10. Make him desire you by always looking good even if you do gain a few pounds. And if he complains to much about your weight, say I got this way having your babies and if you care to help me loose it I will be glad to. Then say let’s go work out.