Some people treat relationships like buying a car. You go out and shop for something sleek, good looking with a new car scent. Then you take it out for a test drive. Once it has met your level of satisfaction you trade in the old model and apply the discount to the new car, drive off the parking lot then live happily ever after – right! That is until you get the first car note and then began to really consider the weight of being tied down for the next 5-7 years when the old car was running well, had been faithful and was PAID for. Statistics bear out that the failure rate on second marriages is staggering.

Might I make a brief suggestion? Perhaps you might consider restoring the old model instead of trading out for a new model. Perhaps you just might want to consider the old model a classic and worthy of the ultimate in care. Ok, granted the sleek new thing with all of the new stuff revees your engine, but the old thing with a paint job and newly restored seats and some detailing might just revee your engine too. And it comes equipped with all those years of memories of every good thing you did in the car – trips taken, love made, engagements offered. That is just something that the new car won’t have. Plus it has miles and miles of experience of walking through life with you. Certainly if you work hard enough you can think of more good times than bad.

Then there is the joy and satisfaction knowing the you have restored the old car – new paint, auto detailing, oil job, tune up, new tires etc. Anybody that has ever restored a car knows the sheer excitement you get the first time you put it on the road after restoration. It is a beyond awesome experience and suddenly the car has even more value to you than when you bought it new. Why? Because you invested in it. You literally put a part of your heart and soul into the restoration. It is no longer a car that the manufacturer created, it is something that your own personal touch has recreated. That newly restored car becomes an obsession and every free moment you want to spend with it. Somehow if we could just apply that to an old tired marriage, you might just save it.