I believe it can be true love when there is no spark. But the question is do you need spark for your personality? Many people live very happy, mild lives because they have a lot in common and are happy to be together. Others need spark – fire, heat, passion along with having a lot in common and being happy together.

Just think about the movie Sleepless in Seatle the character played by Meg Ryan would have been content to marry “Walter” but when she met “Sam” there was MAGIC and she went for it. Obviously she needed spark. But think about Ethel and Fred on the Lucy show, no spark required. I know these are only fictional but you can see personality traits in them.

So when you read your own personality do you see Morticia and Gomez on the Addams Family – spark, or do you see Fred and Ethel – no spark and I could be content like that. What do you need? What do you really need?

If you are a sparky person but feel you could live happily with a sparkless person because you have a devout relationship with them it can work. But if you are a sparky person that needs to have that reciprocated then you really need to consider your life choice.