Yes you can. Change your mind towards the situation believing that you can helps. If it is physical and emotional time, patience, communications, knowledge and understanding can help. Follow God’s pattern for intimacy he gave Adam and Eve a commission be fruitful and multiply that speaks volumes but in essence have a pleasing and productive sex life. The he created an environment for that to take place in the sanctuary of a perfumed garden under the stars, then he told them what to do – get to know each other physically which takes time, then he told them how long to do that – until death, then he gave them how often – anytime you feel like it with the exception of one week and then he advised them that expressing love verbally was important (Songs of Soloman). Finally he told them when intimacy should be over – when love pleases (Songs of Soloman).

If satisfaction is based on what you do for her, some women may not be able to be satisfied because they are selfish and always wanting something. A lot of that can probably be linked back to their upbringing. Then others have so many deficiencies that you will never be able to complete them. In a situation like that you will have to understand that your best effort is all you can give. You can not make her receieve or appreciate your best effort, but you can know that you have done all you do and rest in that. Sometimes communications in this area could help because at least they will know how you feel and that will be off your chest but depending on the person’s mindset it might not make an impact. That is where prayer comes in, ask God to help. Let him know you need him to help your wife to understand how what she does impacts you and to send healing into that part of your relationship. Tell him you want peace.