Husband Not Good In Bed

The worst thing you can do is to condemn your relationship to non-fulfillmnet. The best thing you can do is to work out the situation. A few years ago Ophra did a wonderful segment on healing realtionships that were not fulfilling and they mentioned a place that she sent people for counseling. It was some type of retreat. You might want to contact her producers to get information on this. But the bottom line was counseling restored the relationships almost instantaneously. The couples loved each other but just were not fulfilled.

If you are not quite ready for counseling then increasing communications between you and your spouse might help. Also a good book to read is The Act of Marriage and The Act of Marriage over 40 by Tim LaHaye. Don’t start with a complaint list telling him that he is not good in bed, rather discuss things that you think could improve the relationship in that area. He just might not know what you need. That is why God put the Songs of Soloman in the Bible, it is a book that communicates how lovers feel and what lovers want. The end result is a satisfying relationship. Then encourage him, tell him what he does do right. Your encouragement will go a long way in his performance. Use your words wisely.

Other things to consider where you might need help is medical issues that contribute, personal trauma that might need counseling to uncover, and areas of rejection which have left him with low self esteem, shame and embarrasment that contribute to the situation. If you take the time you can walk the situation through and see improvement. Be patient. Another thing is let him know that you love him and want him everyday. This will build trust, bonding and begin to create an environment where he feels safe to be with you because if he senses your disapproval he will more than likely withdraw. Patience, loving honesty and loving support with God’s help will more than likely change your destiny. Work hard at this and don’t give up. See my About page for resources.

Add a comment February 10, 2009